BXBX NOVEL Chapter 123 - Get To Know Each Other
11. DON'T SMOTHER HIM
It might be tempting to want to spend every waking moment with him, but remember that everyone needs alone time. Giving a guy the freedom to be himself will make sure that he's always coming back to you in the end. If you prove that you're not the type to get clingy, he'll know you're the right one.
12. LET HIM CALL YOU
If you want to talk to him or need to tell him something, calling him is totally fine! It's normal! But sometimes, a guy needs to feel like he's the one making the first move.
So even if you're dying to pick up the phone, let him come to you. He'll be delighted by how happy you are to hear from him and fall even more in love.
13. MAKE EYE CONTACT
Eye contact is already proven to be one of the most effective body language techniques there is.
"Eye contact and a smile are all it takes! Three to four seconds of eye contact, plus a smile and you are golden. Most guys like to hedge their bets of being shot down, and those nonverbal cues let him know the odds are in his favor," adds DeAlto.
If you're trying to get a guy to fall for you, make sure you're giving him a lot of eye contact. He'll feel more and more connected to you while you get to know one another more.
14. DON'T BE DESPERATE
Chill! Relax! Don't feel like your whole life is hinging in this relationship. Make sure that you have your own support network and hobbies. Being with a guy is amazing, and building a relationship together is phenomenal. But if you appear too desperate, it's going to turn him off of the relationship entirely.
15. BE TRUSTWORTHY
When a guy is falling in love, he's going to tell you a lot of his insecurities.
According to love and marriage experts Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth A. Schmitz,
"Trust is not something all loving relationships start with… But one thing is for sure; happy and successful marriages and relationships survive and thrive on the basis of this trust. Trust is so pervasive in their relationship that they never give it a second thought. They expect it. It's always there. It is part of the fabric of their relationship."
Be a trustworthy partner and keep his secrets safe. If he can trust you, he'll fall in love with you no problem.
Final thoughts
Getting a guy to fall in love with you is more about being yourself and showing positive qualities, than any kind of gimmick. As long as you make sure that you're being a good and kind human being, and guy of your choice will fall for you.
As they were now finished reading the whole article, Zhang Ren proudly crossed his arms in front of his chest, Shu Xian, arching a brow at him.
"So… you think that this article is accurate?"
"Yes!" Zhang Ren exclaimed, scoffing at the same time. "Seriously, Shu Xian… as a man myself, I am giving my insights on this. Usually, men don't read articles on this but I'm doing so for you!"
With Shu Xian chuckling, she contemplated for a while, cocking her head to the side to ask him a question.
"Hmm… so when I read the article that I found, you were against it because it's like giving myself too much to a man, right?"
"Yes. Like this article, don't make yourself too available to men. Leave them guessing, but of course, don't play too hard to get. But that works, too. Because you'd see if they'd give up on you easily or not."
With Shu Xian nodding as she was understanding what Zhang Ren was saying, she then furrowed her brows further, making her feel slightly worried.
"I really think I can't pull this off… I have never liked someone before and, uh… I'm socially awkward at times."
"I think you can take this to advantage," Zhang Ren said, a grin appearing on his face. "I mean… to be honest, with how the professor is acting towards you based on your stories and what I saw, I could say that he may develop feelings towards you."
"R-really?" Shu Xian twirled the ends of her hair, unsure of the idea. "Someone like me?"
"Come on, Shu Xian," Zhang Ren scolded, rolling his eyes at her. "You don't have to always look down on yourself."
With Shu Xian smiling at Zhang Ren, he continued talking to her, further stating his point.
"Look at this, yeah?"
Zhang Ren swiveled his chair, looking at Shu Xian.
"Both of you are getting closer. Both of you are pretending to date for the sake of his mom not to push him in blind dates, right? If you watch dramas or read stories wherein people pretend, most likely, they end up liking each other. It's sorta like a given because of romantic advances even though fake."
"Mm… alright… so I'll just take baby steps, then… and, uh… try things that might attract him."
"Yes," Zhang Ren nodded, giving his next suggestion. "You can keep on going with your fashion. I find it cute. Although, you can ask Shi Lian for more tips on this. Also, your normal conversations with him… I think both of you enjoy whatever it is you're talking about?"
Shu Xian shrugged, "Erm… I guess? Most of them small talk, but we do indulge ourselves in personal talks every now and then."
"Oh!" Zhang Ren nodded slowly, "Maybe you guys need to get to know each other first. Other personal interests, dislikes, hobbies and such. By then, you would be able to talk about something and shock the other with the things that you know."
Shu Xian pouted, what she said next making Zhang Ren laugh.
"What I know so far is that he is a car enthusiast… I don't know much about cars. At first, I thought Lamborghini is a type of pasta. It sounded Italian."
"Oh, if you tell this to him, he might laugh at it. It does have humor! Remember, humor is also a key here!"
Shu Xian arched a brow at him.
"Me? Attempting to make jokes? You may not be so close with me yet, but you know I'm quite the serious person here."
With Shu Xian turning to look at her computer as she continued taking down notes for her homework, she sighed, already putting their topic aside.
"Never mind… thank you for the help, though. I'll just wing it, whatever and whenever."
"Come on, Shu Xian," Zhang Ren encouraged, patting her back. "You just have to get to know each other. Don't worry!"
As the school bell rang, it indicated that the hour had already passed, making them look at the time: already 3 PM.
As by this time, most of the freshmen events are done, it's getting livelier in the library, finally making the student assistants enthusiastic in their work.